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Is your battle my battle?

I agree. Fatigue is a big part of this post. I’m tired. I’m emotional not hormonal. I’m grateful for what I have, but feel short-changed. I feel guilty for feeling that way.

I read about a lady battling to get her husband the support he needs to live with his mental health problems. He’s homeless because he can’t be around his kids, he is being over-looked by an over-whelmed healthcare system. His kids know he’s homeless but don’t understand why he isn’t being helped. He doesn’t tick the right boxes so he isn’t a priority. He is deteriorating on a daily basis, his wife is desperate to help him but is being blocked at every turn. Yet, she keeps fighting. She fights every day.

People like her give me hope for a future that I struggle to see. She’s doing it for her kids. She’s doing it for her husband. The side effect of that, is that she is doing it for me and for you too. What society as a whole, I think, tends to forget, is that we are are ALL a single, unexpected event away from the situation this lady finds herself in. She didn’t marry a man with obvious mental health issues. She didn’t have children with a man with obvious mental health issues. Yet a single circumstance sees her on a 9-year battle to get help for him. I feel humbled by her battle and in awe of her strength.

And yet.

I, like so many of us, can’t comprehend her situation. Can’t see past our own circumstances. Is this wrong? On so many levels it feels like it is. I feel guilty because I can’t give the wider issue that she raises the due attention it deserves because I’m wrapped up in my own. Aren’t we all? On another level, I feel grateful. I feel such a sense of relief that I don’t have to live everyday raising small humans to be decent citizens while trying to explain to them how society, as a whole dare I say, is letting their father down. Is it enough to think “that’s terrible, I wish there was something I could do” and move on to the next story? Well we all know the answer to that. At least I hope we do. Yet, it really isn’t that clear cut and simple, is it.

My issues, my mental health problems seem minor in comparison. I equally hate myself and commend myself for saying this. My situation is different. Completely different. Yet, the facts remain. I have epilepsy, I have MS, I have depression (& before the pedantic police pull me up, yes I know I’m supposed to say “suffer”), I have mental health issues and I struggle to see a way forward. I’m still functioning in society though and for this I feel grateful. Or am supposed to feel grateful.

I just don’t know that a society by which it’s ok to let a man and his family suffer for 9 years because the man doesn’t fit the right boxes to get him adequate help is the society I want to live in. It seems all I can do to try to change that is continue to help the lady raise awareness of her situation and to vote. Oh don’t get me wrong. A huge part, the vast majority indeed, of society are good people. People who are shocked and saddened when they hear of issues like this. That’s a good thing. Yet, I feel that we are gradually moving toward a time where this lady’s circumstances are the norm.

How very sad.

My own issues, when compared to this lady’s pale in comparison. But they are still valid. They are my day-to-day. And I suppose that’s what we all have to remember. It’s all relative. I can’t compare my situation to hers because it’s so very different. I can sympathise, but struggle to empathise. Perhaps because I really, simply just don’t want to imagine what it must be like to walk in her shoes.

I feel tired. I bet she does too. I feel emotional. I bet she does too. I’m battling my own demons, I bet she is too. I am utterly fatigued. I wonder if she is too. Her kids are suffering more than a child should. I don’t have to deal with that. Her husband is suffering more than a husband should. I don’t have to deal with that. She is battling hard to raise awareness. I wonder if I do enough of that. She is battling every day. I wonder if I have the strength to do that. Her pleas for assistance from the relative bodies are, effectively, being ignored. I struggle to raise to the relevant bodies my pleas.

The differences are pronounced, but the similarities can be found.

The moral of the story, in my eyes at least, are epically biblical. “There, but for the grace of “xxx”, go I”.

Another disjointed outpouring from a fatigued and emotional mind.

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Tired?

It’s been around 3 months since I last wrote a post. It’s not been the best 3 months of my life. I seem to say things like that a lot these days. I don’t think I’ve had a great 3 months since before the MS diagnosis. Nothing has been the same. Everything is different and I’d be lying if I said I was finding coming to terms with it all has been easy. I thought I was possibly starting to get to grips with things finally when the epilepsy episode premiered in November last year. Armistice Day to be precise.

I haven’t written because I’ve been scared. Scared of the consequences of truth. In my experience, the truth is often the hardest to hear but the most useful. The odd lie to save a hurt is fine, in my book, but ultimately lies lead to nowhere happy. But my truth, I’m having issues uttering. I can’t say that I really know why. I said it was fear of consequences but I think that is only part of it. I don’t want people to be more afraid for me than they should and I don’t want a blog post of mine to be the catalyst that throws a person into thinking that I’m suicidal. I’m not. Don’t get me wrong. Dark, troubled thoughts plague my mind 24/7, but am I actively planning my end? No.

Everything going on in my head is exacerbated by fatigue. I’m not tired. At least not tired as most folks relate to it. A few hours sleep ain’t gonna fix this situation. You know what it feels like to be tired right? Long days at work? Small children? Overdone the gym? Gardening too much? You know that tired. That tired when you sink into bed and sleep soundly and feel refreshed the next day, right? Oh I know, everyone is tired these days. No-one rests enough, there is always a deadline to meet or a task to be done and lord forbid it doesn’t get done! I hear everyone saying how tired they are. Yet, I wonder, are they tired, like I’m tired?

A long time ago someone said to me after I’d complained of being tired, that I had no idea what “tired” is because I don’t have children. Apparently, only those who have kids are capable of being truly tired. I beg to differ. I still don’t have children and I definitely know what it feels like to be so exhausted you can’t see straight. Can’t think straight. Can’t function in normal daily life. I know it because that is my daily life. That is the gift that MS has given me, one of them anyway.

Tiredness has always been with me because of my epilepsy. I’ve complained of tiredness a lot over the years. Yet, now, I’m not tired. I am utterly fatigued. Mentally and emotionally overdrawn in every account. This fatigued isn’t something that will be fixed by a cup of hot chocolate and a night’s sleep. This fatigue comes after the sleep (if you can sleep that is) and appears before you’ve got out of bed. Sometimes, it feels like you can’t get out of bed. It’s too much. Everything is a trial. Everything is an effort. Everything. Having a shower, getting out of bed, getting dressed, you name it. The fatigue is all-encompassing. It controls every aspect of your life. I don’t want to cancel the evening out, but I simply haven’t got the energy to go.

There are days when I simply can’t think straight. Tasks that used to come quickly, easily and even naturally to me, I have to think about and really focus on completing. The fatigue is front and centre the whole time. There is no pill I can take, no amount of Red Bull is gonna give this girl wings and, though I rest when I can, no amount of downtime really helps. It is soul-destroying trying to live with this level of fatigue. Utterly soul-destroying.

The MS diagnosis changed my life in ways that I couldn’t have even imagined. Over the past 3 months, my level of acceptance of my situation has depleted rapidly. I’ve tried really hard to stay positive and see that having MS isn’t the end of the world. God knows I’ve tried. I spent years coming to terms with epilepsy. I truly don’t think I have it in me to accept, embrace and live alongside another life-changing condition. I follow umpteen folks on social media who seem to be able to deal with their MS. I do wonder, given what I know about my situation, whether they are telling the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth. Trying to spread positivity is fantastic, it really is. Yet I can’t apply it to my situation. And part of the problem is the bloody constant fatigue.

I actually deleted my FB account a few weeks ago. There were a couple of main reasons. Firstly, I was totally fed up with reading about the wonderful life of others. Yes, I’m completely aware that it’s not all sugar and spice and a lot is covering up a much harder truth. But I just couldn’t stand to see it. The second reason was seeing the bitterness creeping into my own posts. I could see what I was writing was oozing it. I didn’t like that and so I deleted the account. Do I miss it? No, not really. It’s a shame I don’t get to connect with some people as often, but I can put my hand on my heart and say, no, I don’t miss it. I’m left with other forms of media though and I’m able to contain my bitterness on those forums.

I was posting a bit about my fatigue. I thought by writing it down I might see a way through it. That didn’t work. I feel consumed by it. How do you accurately portray that? I’m trying to explore this with a neuropsychologist. It’s become really apparent to me, that I need help to deal with this diagnosis and find a way to accept it and live with it successfully. I’m crying as I write this, because, right now, I simply can’t see a way through it. I can’t see how I can regain Kirsty. It seems to me she has gone.

To be fair, I cry a lot these days too. Being so fatigued you can’t see straight isn’t conducive to dry tear ducts.

This post has been tough for me to write. It represents an opening of a window in the outer wall that surrounds me. My neuropsychologist, I may call him NP from now on, asked me why I don’t accept the fatigue I feel as physical, but rather as emotional. I couldn’t answer him, because I don’t know. It’s something I’m trying to explore. He wants me to try to accept that the fatigue really is real and it affects me in a physical way. That, obviously, is the high-level overview, there is obviously a lot more that has passed between me and NP but perhaps I’ll get to that…

I know this post is disjointed and I know it’s because it’s been really emotional for me to write it, but there you go. I was going to re-read, correct, amend and make it flow better, but you know what…I’m tired and I simply can’t be bothered. Perhaps there will be a part 2 sometime!

The next time someone tells you they are tired before you make a wisecrack, be sure they aren’t covering up something much bigger.

 

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What next…?

It gets to the stage when you seriously question just how many times you can pick yourself back up.

10 days ago I was travelling home after spending the weekend with my oldest friend. My parents had kindly picked me up and we were driving north. A few miles outside of Edinburgh, I started to have a seizure in the back seat of the car. My head banged hard multiple times off the car door. I was taken straight to A&E where it took some time to persuade me to leave the car and when I finally did I started the second of the seizures. This time I thrashed on the gurney. Truthfully, I don’t remember any of this. I suspect the story I’ve been told has been softened up a little. I did spend 3 days in hospital. I did have 3 seizures and I did give myself a small bleed in my brain as proved by a CT Scan that I don’t remember having.

I was discharged from hospital a week ago. I don’t remember too much about any of that, but I do remember starting to feel really unwell as time was going on. When it became a bit more apparent to me that there was something not quite right with my face, I called NHS24 & was given an appointment at a hospital.

Long story, short. I have been diagnosed with Bell’s Palsy. Half my face is paralysed; one eye doesn’t close; my ears are constantly ringing and yet there is a sense of deafness in my right ear. I can’t speak very well. I can’t eat very well. And without putting too fine a point on it, I’m pretty scared.

Apparently, there isn’t really anything that can be done for Bell’s Palsy. There is a small chance that steroids can help if they are given soon enough after initial diagnosis, so I am currently on a high dose of them, but there are no guarantees. I’ve been told that it’s hard to go out with my face looking the way it does – reassuring! I’ve also been told to try to do it as soon as possible – terrifying! I’ve been for more scans, so perhaps that counts as being in public?! I’ve also got another appointment tomorrow, so maybe that is good enough to reinforce the “get out there” mentality?

A few weeks ago, I wrote about wondering whether I’d done any of “this” to myself. Here I am again. Where to go from here? At what point do I get to feel sorry for myself without inviting the comments about being a victim? Surely, it’s ok to feel a bit hard done by, no?

Epilepsy. MS. Depression. Bell’s Palsy.

Can that not please be enough? Please! Apart from the headaches and the pain, I feel a bizarre kind of emptiness. A sort of “what’s the point”? I don’t quite know the purpose of these struggles. What am I supposed to be learning? Isn’t there an Idiots Guide to… I can read instead? Who the hell have I upset so much that these afflictions are my punishment?

Ah, here they come. The tears. I can blink them away from one eye, but the other just streams. I know it’s going to leave my eye red, sore and swollen. Yet, there is nothing I can do about it. Just something else, that I have no option but to put up with. When does it end? When will it end? What can I do to make this all go away?

Yep, feeling sorry for myself now. Who cares? I’m not strong enough to take this and if I want to dissolve into buckets of tears then where is the harm in that? I’m not hurting anyone by doing that and maybe I just need to know that it’s ok not to be ok. Right? We get told that don’t we? That we don’t have to be strong all the time and that it’s ok to be scared sometimes?

So, here I am. Another affliction I can’t control. Another solitary journey. Another route I can’t explain to another and more feelings of inadequacy.

I don’t know how many more times I can pick myself back up.

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Epilepsy, Janet & KitKats…

I was supposed to be in Krakow last week. Instead, I was at home, hiding in my family tree where I made a discovery of another epilepsy-related death in the family. This time on my mother’s side of the family. The not travelling thing is something I’m going to have to deal with quite soon. My confidence is just shot to ribbons.

Anyway, I’ve written before about GGG Agnes, she died during a seizure in 1914. GGG Agnes was my Dad’s great-grandmother. Janet, my Mother’s second cousin, died during a seizure in hospital in 1933. I wonder just how different their deaths were. What was it like to die at home in 1914 compared to a hospital in 1933?

Today, I spent another long day at the hospital, thankfully courtesy of a scheduled appointment, rather than my usual drop-in-uninvited-via-an-ambulance visit. More scans, more blood tests, more eye examinations, more questions. No more answers. No reasons as to why my body attacks itself. Nothing to help my mind understand so that it stops attacking myself.

I wonder if answers are what its all about though. I mean, it only really matters if the answers enable a resolution? Understanding the why is only part of the story. The next chapter is fixing the why; the prequel is prevention. For me, though, I need to understand the why. I don’t mean the “why me?”; I just mean the why. It’s the only way that I can sort of come to terms with my situation, even if I may never be able to change it. I participate in clinical studies fully in the knowledge that any discoveries made are unlikely to be able to help me, but they could change the life of another human being.

The consultants went to great lengths to explain that I didn’t do anything to give myself MS. On an intellectual level, I kinda get that. I want to get that. But, there is a niggle. An itch that can’t be scratched. With my epilepsy, I spent a long time believing it was the solely the result of a terrible skiing accident. My brother spent a long time believing it was solely the result of him breaking a snooker cue on my head when we were kids. My parents never offered an opinion and it wasn’t until I found out they knew about GGG Agnes that I understood their lack of opinion. In actual fact, it turned out that I was genetically pre-disposed and that in all likelihood the near-death experience in the Alps had simply triggered the faulty gene. It is virtually impossible that the snooker cue incident was the cause.

There are at least two incidences in my family tree to confirm the genetic disposition to epilepsy. I wonder how common it is to have at least one incidence of death by epilepsy on both the maternal and the paternal side of a family? Of course, knowing these relatives died during a seizure is different from knowing how many of my kin suffered from epilepsy but died from an unrelated cause.  I find myself looking through the death certificates amassed for my family to see if I can find anything that may point toward MS. I know its probably a futile exercise and I know that it would be virtually impossible to prove a link, but I feel like I have to do it. It’s a kind of compulsion.

MS can be genetic. You’re apparently more likely to get MS if someone else in your family has it or had it. So, I wonder if I will find that link, whether the gene is inherited or whether I’m just bloody unlucky. If both conditions are inherited then perhaps it’s a good thing I can’t have kids.

It’s interesting, to me anyway, to look back and see what kind of medical research was going on throughout the ages. Given that 1914 and 1933 seem to be featuring heavily for me at the moment, this is part of what I found (paraphrased of course!).

Most of the interest of the day seems to centre around electroencephalography. In 1912, a Russian physiologist, noticed the electric changes in the brain during experimentally induced seizures. In the same year, Pravdich-Neminsky, a Ukrainian physiologist, published the first animal EEG and two years later the first photographs of electroencephalography of a dog were published. Important discoveries in electroencephalography were made during the 1920s and 1930s. In 1924, Berger, a German neurologist, recorded the first human electroencephalogram. His results brought controversy and scepticism within the scientific community, but he was not ignored and his results were confirmed later. In 1932, Berger reported sequential postictal EEG changes after a generalized tonic-clonic seizure, and in 1933 he published the first example of interictal changes and a minor epileptic seizure using an EEG. Also in 1912, Alfred Hauptmann was able to synthesize phenobarbital, one of the first anti-epileptic drugs. Fascinating times and great strides forward being made in the clinical side of epilepsy, unfortunately, the social side was still lacking far behind.

So far, in my family research, I’ve not been able to find any clues as to whether MS has played a part in any of my family history. Apart from those deaths during seizures, there has been a worrying amount of heart disease, one “burned to death” in 1834 (must investigate whether she was attached to a stake at the time – the dates would fit with epilepsy=witch!) and an unfortunate dock worker who was hit on the head by a falling wooden beam. Nothing suggestive of an MS symptom, but there is much out there still to research about my relatives…

So, I’m left knowing I need to spend more time in the hospital next week. More tests! I do wonder if its worth it sometimes. I wonder how things would be if I didn’t have MS in particular. I don’t know what “normal” should feel like anymore and I miss knowing myself. It feels like the questions are designed to catch me out. Yes, I’m so very very tired, but I don’t know how much of that is related to the MS, depression and epilepsy! Why aren’t the doctors able to answer that question? Why does it seem to be down to me to know that answer? It’s frustrating in the extreme. I didn’t go to med school. I don’t know the answers and whereas I’m fully aware there is very little definitive info that can be given to me, I want to hear the consultants’ opinions and reasonings as to what is going on. It’s hard to know there are no answers. Phrasing questions like “could it be that…?” – well, of course it bloody well could be anything, but I don’t know! That’s why I’m here asking you the questions!! It’s like saying to me “well, you’ve highlighted there is a problem here, but how would YOU fix it…”.

Ok, so I’ve established I’m frustrated. Tired and frustrated actually. Stressed out? Yep, tick. Burning red twice a day? Yep, tick. However, on the positive side, so far at least, I’ve not burned to death; I’ve not been crushed by a log (my bro tried that one, when we are kids – didn’t work then, won’t work now); and I’ve discovered the wonders of Dark Mint KitKats. I don’t think you’re supposed to eat as many as I have, but to date, my hand-to-mouth co-ordination has not been affected by either MS or Epilepsy, so I’m bloody well going to make the most of it!

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Dear Brain…prt2…

The last time I wrote an open letter to you, brain, I was on my knees and begging for answers. I sure as shit did not like the response.

I’m back again. Well, not that I really left. We’re intrinsically linked. I can’t live without you, but I do find myself wondering if you can live without me. I’m finding it hard to keep up with you, you see. You just never stop. You never give me a moment’s peace. That’s why I’m writing this at 11pm on a Tuesday night. The voices just won’t shut up!

Oh, not those kinds of voices. No, I’m not quite there yet. But someone rabbits incessantly all day, all night. It can only be you, brain. I need to find a name for you. I can think of several that are apt, but none of them look good in print. It seems bizarre talking to you in this way. Because I’m not really talking to you, I’m talking to myself. You are me and I am you. Could drive a person insane trying to figure that one out. But does make me wonder how I can shut myself up…

My brain. Lobelia.

Lobelia presents me with many challenges. She particularly likes to ask me difficult questions in the wee small hours. She knows I need to sleep, but apparently she doesn’t care. Fatigue leads to problems for my epilepsy. Lobelia knows this. Lobelia has known this since she short-circuited when I was 15. Please don’t get wound up on the gender identification I’ve placed on Lobelia. For the sake of clarity – I am woman! Lobelia is going to be a woman too, whether she bloody well likes it or not. Anyway, I digress. Lobelia was triggered into electrical action when I was 15. It’s amazing what a combination of a faulty gene and a skiing trip can do! Maybe Lobelia blames my physical body (which she controls) for this. I don’t know that answer. She only seems to like asking questions at inopportune moments (hours); she’s not really one for giving answers.

Anyway, Lobelia knows that fatigue and epilepsy are not great bed-fellows. One of them really should take the spare room. But still, she insists on making them co-habit. And to make things just that little more interesting, she introduced MS into the mix. MS is like the mother-in-law from hell who moves in, just as your already fractious relationship is teetering on the brink. Lobelia has got a really sick sense of humour. If I am her and she is me, then how come we can’t get along?

Lobelia is average weight – around 3lbs. She is about 15cms long. And she lives the phrase – “good things come in small packages…and so does poison”. She allows me to function on a day-to-day basis, but the price I pay for that is heavy. She leaves me exhausted, but won’t let me sleep. She relies on drugs to soften the hard edges of the living arrangements she created herself; but not the soporific type. She asks me questions that have no answers; she drags up my history and replays it; she loves to play the “what if…” game. She tells me just how tired I am and then sinks me into a depression that is immeasurable. She uses that state to get more drugs. Well, we call them medications. They’re all legal and above-board. Even though one of them gets delivered to my house in a grey package and it always seems a little weird to have that happen. I find myself looking around furtively to see if anyone is witnessing the transaction. I’m glad I don’t live on a street corner!

Is this how it’s going to be for the rest of my days? Lobelia knows that she will live forever. Actually, we all live forever. Forever, can only be determined by an individual. Your forever, isn’t my forever. Has anyone ever promised to love you forever, only to leave you 5 years later? I rest my case. Cynical? Perhaps. Best ask Lobelia. Not that she’ll give you any answers.

Dear Lobelia. I am your physical shell. I hold in one place all of your nerves. I know you’re having issues keeping hold of the myelin sheath around those nerves. I know that according to Pakkenberg et al. the length of myelinated nerve fibres in you Lobelia = 150,000-180,000 km. That is a helluva lot of fibres. I know you started with around 20 billion neocortical neurons and I know you lose them at a rate of around 1 per second. I don’t know how quickly you can replace them. I know you pose these questions to me late at night. You throw them in there along with the frivolous musings and the rehashing of conversations I had 20 years ago that could have gone better. I just don’t have the capacity to think about these things anymore. There is no room. You can remember the random facts from a different life, but I can’t remember the birthday of my best friend. You want to torment me with the failings of a previous inning, but I can’t continue to function at a high enough level to keep the current one successful. Lobelia giveth and Lobelia taketh away.

Lobelia. We need to reimagine how this is going to go. What could it be like? What say you let me sleep for a few hours? Hold your questions and accusations for a dedicated time slot during the day? Will that work for you? I know, I know, I’m asking the question and you won’t want to answer. Think about though, please. My sanity depends on it.

What Lobelia doesn’t know is…I’ve donated her to research when my forever comes to a close. Hehehehe.

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The Dark Days of Summer…

I’m finding it hard to write at the moment. It’s not that I don’t want to; it’s just I don’t know how far I can go before I lose myself to the darkness again.

It’s ironic that the beauty of this UK summer is coinciding with the darkest depression I’ve had in a very long time. It seems that everything is coming together at once and the relentless waves I usually feel my depressions to be, have grown into an almighty tsunami. But I don’t know which metaphorical earthquake has triggered it.

I can’t lay the cause at one door. I’m not sure why I’m trying to. But I can’t just do the whole “acknowledge and accept and let it pass” thing. Forgive me if you will, but I just find that a little bit too touchy feely for my current raw state. My regularly burning skin is just far too sensitive to take any kind of manipulation and I really don’t want to explore what’s in the recess of my mind. I find myself scared of it.

I used to suffer a recurring dream when I was little. It involved the wardrobe in my brother’s room, the non-existent basement to our house and a carpet of writhing, hissing, spitting snakes. I believed that if I stood on the brass makers-plate on the floor of the wardrobe, it would open up and I would drop into the snake pit. I would scream and scream but no one came to help me. I never ever found out what happened to me because my screaming was real and I’d wake myself up. You’d think I’d have a problem with snakes given that nightmare, but I feel neither one way nor another about them. A certain fascination is there, in that I want to learn about them, but beyond that they hold no fear for me. I still think about that dream, a good 30 years since I last had it. I think the snakes were a representation of my thoughts and the basement is just the all-encompassing darkness of the mind. I spent the whole time we lived in that house terrified of a brass plate. It’s now the snakelike tendrils of the thoughts and processes of my mind that occupy my thoughts.

My soul isn’t doing somersaults at the moment, Rumi. Depression came to tea and appears to be staying for dinner. The heart sitting on my sleeve is telling blatant lies through rose-tinted lenses and I’m carrying a shroud of fear and hopelessness that I’m praying is invisible. Bit daft really, when I’m penning a post about how depressing depression is.

And yet, I still get up and function. Traditional descriptions of depression would say that the darkness is all encompassing, there is no functioning, there’s just black. However, this is the 21st century. Most of us who suffer don’t fit this traditional assumption of what depression is. There are just too many facets to it, to adequately pigeonhole all of us who live it.

Why am I able to go to a job and successfully do it if I’m apparently suffering from depression? Well, there are a few reasons. Firstly, it makes me feel more “normal”. Secondly, it’s a distraction. Thirdly, it’s my way of fighting back. These are the highlights for me. Many others don’t have the luxury of sick benefits – they don’t work, they don’t get paid. Many others are simply unable to get out of bed, get out of the house, get on public transport, deal with those so-called simple things that many don’t even think about, they don’t need to.

Depression isn’t a one size fits all illness. It strikes everybody slightly differently. Everybody deals with it slightly differently. We do what we have to do to get through each day. I make no apology for that.

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MS & Marionettes…

Today, I stepped off the bus and I didn’t know if my legs were going to support me. Tomorrow, I’m going back to the hospital.

As I write this, there is a red, angry rash covering my whole body. It’s caused by the medication I’m on and it happens twice a day. I know it’s the drugs and I know it will pass, but there is a tiny sliver of me that wonders if this will be the time when it doesn’t go away. The rash is accompanied by a burning sensation that radiates from my head downwards. It truly feels like I’m being incinerated from the inside out. The itchy feeling makes me want to claw at my skin. I just want it to stop. I try to see the funny side. I look like a tomato and feel like one that’s being grilled. I feel a bizarre empathy for griddled foods. But it isn’t funny and I’m not laughing. Quite the opposite.

I feel like a puppet and the marionettist hasn’t a clue what they’re doing. I walked from the bus stop to work and with every step, I felt a weakness in my legs. The only other time I really feel my muscles is after an intense burst of exercise. Then it’s generally pain. Today, finding words to describe it adequately is hard. My legs felt weak to the point it was almost funny. The sensation was that of overwhelming weakness but no pain at all. I’m fully aware that my gait is all over the place and I’m supremely conscious of every other person hurrying to get on with their day. I don’t hurry. I can’t hurry. I’m scared to hurry. The invisible puppeteer with his invisible wires is leading my legs on a merry little dance that has no rhythm and no grace.

I know where I want my legs to go. I see the path in front of me and I’m trying to walk in a straight line. I know I’m not. I’m lurching almost from side to side. An old ankle injury seems to be bearing the brunt of my weird walk and I can feel a yelp from the joint. Not an out and out scream, but more that it’s reminding me that it has a valid weakness and it can’t really cope with the extra weight that is being applied at a weird angle. I don’t know that I have ever been that completely conscious of any part of my body before. Other than my eyes. A year ago.

My eyes have been feeling a bit off kilter too. They seem to leak a lot more fluid these days than ever before. I think it’s what people generally call tears. I feel fairly certain that I’m losing more than my fair share of them and I wonder if tears form part of the myelin sheath that’s meant to be surrounding my nerves, but is, in actual fact, leaking out of my tear ducts at a sometimes alarming rate. I’ve always worn my heart on my sleeve, but I was never a great crier. Until recently. Well, I say recently, but I mean in the last year or so. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve never been adverse to the odd crying session. Thankfully I’m not a wailer when it comes to the expression of tearful emotions, rather they escape silently, steadily flowing down my cheeks. I want to go back to the days when I wore my emotions on my face, but they weren’t accompanied by these hot little tears that are born of frustration, anger and fear. The problem with my eyes isn’t the tears though. I feel a pressure behind my left eye that makes it seem like it will explode at any given second. The fear that this is the beginning of a repeat of those terrifying weeks a year ago is bubbling through me. I wonder (or maybe hope) that it could just be a sinus issue and that’s what I’m feeling. Nothing to do with MS, but instead, a fairly common affliction that the vast majority of us have felt at one time or another.

I also have a, sometimes overwhelming, feeling of sadness. I’m still working that one out.

The feelings of muscle weakness that I have so inadequately described are accompanied by a terror that I try to pretend isn’t there. What if. I’m scared I’m on the verge of a relapse. I’m terrified because I don’t know how that feels and so can’t be certain. I don’t know if the weakness is just because I’m so very tired. All the time. Tired. I don’t know if I’m so focussed on every little thing my body goes through, that I am making a mountain out of a molehill. If I’m being really honest, when I try to describe these feelings to people, the blank looks and the sometimes fleeting expressions of disbelief make me feel fraudulent.

I can’t describe it. Others can’t understand it.

I used to understand my body. Epilepsy is an almighty pain in the ass, but I knew what to expect. I knew how I would feel. I didn’t always see it coming, but compared to how I feel every day now, I’m glad of that. It would hit me like a ton of bricks, leave me battered, bruised and depressed and then bugger off until it stored up enough energy to electrocute my brain again. Of course, I’m describing that in the past tense, but it is ever-present. Always in the background. Always watchful for the next chance to become the puppeteer.

Through the whole “woe is me” and the tears, I try to find the positives. My legs did support me today. I felt like a newborn-Bambi on ice, but I did make the short trip from the bus stop to the office. And I also successfully completed the return journey. Some would say I was worried over nothing, Unfortunately, that couldn’t be said until after I’d achieved the short walk to the office and the subsequent activities of the day. It went through my mind every time I sat down, that the last time I have stood up under my own steam, may have passed. Then I remember that I’m a drama queen and get over myself. But it is stored away in the cupboard that houses the electrical circuits.

At age 45, I knew me. At age 46, I’m a stranger to myself. What is it they say about strangers? They’re just friends we don’t know yet. It would seem that this stranger is going to become a friend I will have a love/hate relationship with!

Perhaps though, that will give me more cheerful things to write about!!